How Do You Get Over an Offense?

When someone offends you, you often feel belittled. And that’s not a comfortable feeling. First you wonder what the problem is with the offender and then wonder what you did wrong. Then, as some kind of delayed reaction, you think of ways to defend yourself and perhaps retaliate. Sometimes, no matter how patient you are,…

Why Meekness is Most Powerful on Earth

People pursue education and career mostly for two reasons–possession and power. Power and possession are either for protection or aggression. Even in some church leadership, this is obvious–they pursue advanced studies to seek higher positions and power, either to protect or to conquer. But they all forget one thing–Jesus said blessed are the meek because they…

How Husbands Should Manage Their Wives’ Submissiveness

SUBMISSIVENESS STEWARDSHIP BUILDER. Good stewardship of your wife’s submissiveness–this is often what husbands need to understand. They’re often just told how they can enjoy their wive’s submissiveness–and they like that, of course–but they’re not instructed enough about how to be good stewards of it. Often, when arguments arise, some husbands are too quick to invoke their…

Fear of Confrontation: Here’s How You Get Rid of It

BRAVENESS BUILDER. Who among you love confrontation? It’s unusual but some people just love confronting people. Most Pinoys don’t. They’d rather feel their way to each others’ emotions or moods than confront each other about them. “Paki-ramdaman,” is how we put it.  We’re not comfortable discussing truth upfront. We’d rather ignore and hope it’d go away. Others…

Why Balance Confidence and Humility?

HUMILITY BUILDER. Obviously, we all need to have self-confidence. But as the term is overused nowadays, sometimes twisted, corrupted, and abused, the notion is that it has become synonymous with self-pride. They often call the arrogant, “oozing with self-confidence,” and one who’s overly self-assured and disdaining people as “confident.” Worse, if you look down on…

Self Control is Not Self in Control

SELF-CONTROL BUILDER. Google says self control is the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, especially in difficult situations. I agree with that–the ability to control self. But whose ability? If it’s yours, then it’s self effort. It’s the self controlling the self, which is…