How to Handle a Cocky Guy If You’re a Peaceable Person


Ever been confronted with a situation where you have to deal with a cocky guy? If you’re cocky yourself, then I guess this wouldn’t be a problem. But what if you’re a peaceable person, inclined to avoid (and hate) arguments?

I’ve met them a dozen times before (still do now and then)–arrogant and know-it-all, they always want to prove they’re right and you’re wrong. It’s so important to them. Worse, they look for ways to demolish what you say, especially if you’re speaking to a live audience.

It so satisfies their egos to see you embarrassed in front of people. I don’t know why but somehow there are people like that. In some specialized articles I have read, experts say folks like that are terribly emotionally wrecked inside  and hopelessly insecure–or threatened by you.

So what do you?

For sure, never be like them. Be their exact opposite. Never let yourself contaminated in any way by their spirits. If you’re not like them then you’re fit to handle them. And the Book of Proverbs says there are two ways to deal with them:


They want attention and recognition and they’d use you to get it. So, why would you let them do that. Why allow yourself to be used? The used will eventually be like the user. It’s true with illicit drugs, it’s true with cocky people and their victims. If you let people use you like that, you’d later see that you’re gradually turning out to be like them–you crave for attention and recognition and then look for other people to use.

Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him. [Proverbs 26.4]


Second is give them a dose of their own medicine. I’m not saying you also use them and be cocky towards them. The best medicine for haughty people is your natural meekness with wisdom–if you have them. If you don’t, chances are, you’d be easily recruited to their side.

I’ve had several cocky people surrender unconditionally when I gave them the meekness with wisdom treatment. They couldn’t figure out why I never retaliated or reacted to their bad attitude, and marveled at my patience. Well, it’s all by God’s grace–not because I’m a good guy. Jesus said, no one’s good except God. Meekness with wisdom shows how close you are to God. If God uses you, you will eventually see how you’re turning out to be like him. See the principle?

As mentioned earlier, be their exact opposite. Oppose them with humility but guard yourself as well with wisdom. Cocky people think they are wise in their own eyes, and use that to put you down. “Rebuke” them with meekness–showing them you’re different.

Answer a fool according to his folly, or he will be wise in his own eyes. [Proverbs 26.5]

You can actually do both remedies. Ignore them to make them see they can’t harm you with their snide remarks (I often smile and look unaffected). Show them that their assaults mean nothing to you. Then, act meekly before them to show them your Godliness. Nothing rebukes cocky people than a show of meek Godliness with wisdom.

Jesus Christ, the Master of holy PR, has this to say:

I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves. {Matthew 10.16]

Shrewd but innocent. Those are the exact keywords.


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