GRATEFUL GIVING BUILDER. It’s the thought that counts, they say, and did you know that every gift you give cheerfully from the heart counts a lot for your health, too? The more you give then, the better health you have.
But mind you, it should be freely and cheerfully given from the heart–not grievously, or stingily, expecting something in return. If you give and expect people to give back to you–or even thank you–the disappointment can forfeit you of the health benefits of giving gifts.
I’ve seen how folks who gave and expected to get a “thank you” from people–but didn’t–ended up being sour. Later, it resulted to bitterness and animosity which are stressful and lead to ailments. It’s useless to give and then later just end up sickly because of it.
The best attitude when giving is from a sense of gratitude. Give as a way of thanking God for the blessings you get. This way, you don’t expect to be reciprocated in any way–even a “thank you.” Good if recipients thank you, but don’t expect them to. Think of your giving as your gratitude to God, not as your favor to men.
It’s proper to always thank people when you get favors from them. But fact is, some people don’t feel obligated to say thanks. And you can’t force them to. A forced gratitude is as useless as trash. You can preach and preach to people and teach them lessons about gratitude so they’d thank you after giving them favors, but that’s ridiculous–even foolish. You can do that to your children and perhaps to your subordinates, but to other people?
Think of your giving as your gratitude to God, not as your favor to men.
Instead of stressing yourself out making people thank you, just give as a form of gratitude to God. And doesn’t even God make the sun shine to both the good and evil (or the grateful and ungrateful)?
So be wise and consider these health benefits from giving as a form of gratitude:
- Improves physical health. According to a study in 2012 that came out in Personality and Individual Differences, grateful people are less likely to have body pains and aches and are likely to enjoy good health. So, give with a grateful heart to God and let the ungrateful suffer for their ungratefulness.
- Improves psychological health. Giving with gratitude can reduce, if not eliminate, toxicity in your mind and emotions. It’s much more enjoyable to give to people with their benefit solely in your mind rather than their indebtedness to you. It heals your mind, soul and spirit. Dr. Robert A. Emmons, a known gratitude researcher, has found the connection between gratitude and well-being in his studies. He concluded that gratitude increases happiness and lessens or heals depression.
- Better sleep. Grateful thoughts can improve sleep, according to findings of a 2011 study published in the journal Applied Psychology. Thus, sending greeting cards with your sincere gratitude written on them can enhance longer and better sleeps.
- Better emotional health. Emotional health is as important as physical and mental health. In fact, it is part of both. So watch your emotions closely. An article on Forbes.Com about gratitude says: “Grateful people are more likely to behave in a pro-social manner, even when others behave less kind, according to a 2012 study by the University of Kentucky. Study participants who ranked higher on gratitude scales were less likely to retaliate against others, even when given negative feedback.”
So, how do you know you are a grateful person? If you give gifts and still have pro-social manners even if don’t get anything back from your giving.
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