SUBMISSIVENESS STEWARDSHIP BUILDER. Good stewardship of your wife’s submissiveness–this is often what husbands need to understand. They’re often just told how they can enjoy their wive’s submissiveness–and they like that, of course–but they’re not instructed enough about how to be good stewards of it. Often, when arguments arise, some husbands are too quick to invoke their right to enjoy their wives’ submissiveness.
But more important than that is the husband’s stewardship of that loyalty. The bible says wives should submit to their husbands and the latter should love the former. But how is that love employed? Some husbands reason that their demand for submissiveness is their way of showing love for their wives. A good number of them abuse that privilege and end up with a lopsided relationship that weakens marriage and harms family stability.
Your glory is only as bright as your wife’s. “But woman is the glory of man,” [1 Corinthians 11.7].
Husbands should realize that they are stewards of their wives’ loyalty. And stewardship means fruitful management of that which you are entrusted with according to God’s standards. So here’s the gauge–as your wife submits to you in all things, does she bear good fruit in the Lord? Jesus said, you will know them by their fruit. It’s easy to see then if you’re being a good steward of your wife or if you’re merely abusing her loyalty. Just look at your wife. Is she good fruit in Christ? If so, then you’re a good steward.
How is a wife good fruit in Christ then? Again, this is gleaned simply by referring from Scripture:
- 1 Peter 3.3-4: “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” Is your wife beautiful like this in God’s eyes? Or is your wife spiritual and emotionally battered? Worse, is your wife merely beautiful with “outward adornment”?
- Proverbs 31: “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Read through the passage and you’d find all the fruit qualities God looks for in a well-managed or stewarded wife.
If your wife is pretty and glorious in God’s eyes, that glory is mirrored on you. Your glory is only as bright as your wife’s. “But woman is the glory of man,” [1 Corinthians 11.7].