HUMILITY BUILDER. Obviously, we all need to have self-confidence. But as the term is overused nowadays, sometimes twisted, corrupted, and abused, the notion is that it has become synonymous with self-pride. They often call the arrogant, “oozing with self-confidence,” and one who’s overly self-assured and disdaining people as “confident.” Worse, if you look down on people, some folks sometimes say you’re “very confident.”
It used to be when being confident simply meant you were ready for what you were up against and you had reason to believe you’d succeed in your undertaking. And it was all rooted in God giving you confidence–ability and success. But somewhere along the way, the meaning of the word evolved frighteningly as the world became a more cruel place to live in–cutthroat competition, fighting for position, mean politics, back-biting and character assassination.
The skirmishes reached even some church premises so that even amid ministry and worship service, you’d see a bloated sense of self-confidence in a lot of church people. You’d see conflict and competition. To surmount all these, most church people turn to the worldly definition of self-confidence and find refuge in it.
So, what really is clean confidence? How should it look like?
We simply look at how it is seen in Christ in the Gospel. I call it quiet confidence.
Clean confidence is always balanced with humility. How does this look like? We simply look at how it is seen in Christ in the Gospel. I call it quiet confidence. Jesus knew who he was and what he was capable of, yet he didn’t need to prove himself to anyone. He didn’t seek recognition or promotion and comfortably opted for a very simple life. In fact, a very simple role in ministry. He was often found among the masses, simple folks, marginalized people.
Unlike the Pharisees who competed for position, wealth, and prominence. If he was found in their company, he never tried to please them or thought it as some accomplishment. Some pastors today think it is greatness to be found sitting or standing beside politicians or some popular personalities and build confidence from that.
Finally, balancing confidence with humility is the only true road to success. It’s Jesus’ way. Anywhere you are–in church or in corporate offices–I’ve found that having quiet confidence is the safest way to go, especially when people around you are mad about being recognized and being first. It’s better to just mix in with the crowd and let the owner of the house give you a sit at the presidential table. If he doesn’t invite you, then you’re better off with the crowd than insisting to be where you’re not supposed to be.