Self Control is Not Self in Control

SELF-CONTROL BUILDER. Google says self control is the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, especially in difficult situations. I agree with that–the ability to control self. But whose ability? If it’s yours, then it’s self effort. It’s the self controlling the self, which is prone to self-centeredness.

Can you imagine the ego controlling the ego?

Expert Builder’s idea is to have your self transformed first. If it’s yourself controlling the self, it’s still the flesh. But if it’s a Christ centered self–better yet, if it’s a Christ-transformed self controlling the self, it’s genuine control of the self. If it’s no longer you who live but Christ in you, then there’s a reliable Way or System governing the self.

Man is fallen–even “born again” man (that man formed by adulterating regeneration in Christ into a mere religion you join in and become a member of). Fallen man cannot control anything into efficiency but only chaos. I’ve seen it countless times. Even if religious men form the most intricate and comprehensive church policies to control themselves with, they’re always headed for disaster.

To most people (even church people), “self-control” is trying to behave yourself. You try to be civilized while you’re with people. And that often means you behave differently in private. But what the bible calls “self-control” is a life you live in public or private–in fact even while you sleep or are all alone in the restroom. That can only be possible if Christ Himself is in control in you. There’s no need to “behave yourself” or try to be civilized.

A controlled self is the best condition the self can be in. And the control is entirely in the hands of Jesus Christ.


2 thoughts on “Self Control is Not Self in Control

  1. I love that you used a photo of Leo Gura from, he is a personal idol of mine who I try to emulate in my practice. That is a must watch video for those who want to better understand the context of self-control.

    “Can you imagine the ego controlling the ego?” Wow, I never thought of it that way but what a powerful point.

    Great post, seriously! We should connect, come check me out! Just search “Toronto Life Coach” on Google, I am studying under Master Life Coach Bruno LoGreco. Keep up the inspiring work!


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